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The Gift

Christmas is done for another year. We spend many hours and much mental stress coming up with some trinket or other for those we love and we recieve many nice things in return – I did!

But there is never enough time and certainly not enough money to get everything we think we need. So what could I give you that wouldnt cost any money and only a bit of my time?

How about the following;

The Balm of Gilead to heal all your hurts

Time for you to just sit and ponder

A lotus flower that you may know of all God’s creation and power

A rainbow so no matter how tough or long the days you will know God’s promise is sure

Peace, but not as the world see it but a deep and solid peace to your soul

Charity the pure love of Christ

Kindness, be kind to yourself and watch that kindness radiate outwards

Hope that tomorrow will come no matter what happens

Gratitude, be grateful for what you have right now this very moment

and Love, overflowing, never ending forever present

These gifts are free. So take them with my love, share them freely to all you know and those that are but friends unknown.


For unto us a child is born

Once upon a time there was a baby born just like any other baby. The baby grew in body, in knowledge and in wisdom and when he was just 12 years old he went to the passover with his parents has was their custom and he preached in the the synagogue. He preached to the young and the old alike. His mother was distraught when she found him missing and searched for him until he was found. But he said I am alright mother i have come to do the work of my father in heaven and she knew in her heart that it was true.

He was a boy i’m sure just like any other. He had friends and went to school and was trained to be a carpenter just like his father. Picture the scene, Jesus, the boy you went to school with is preaching about a new gospel and that old things are done away. As he comes into his own town people gather but do not really understand. Someone is heard to say ‘Is not this the carpenter’s son? Is not his mother Mary?’

In the end his own rejected him and his work but they were those that listened and know that through following Him they can obtain eternal life.

At this Christ-mas time, take the time to pause and think about what He gave. No trinkets, no baubles, but a gift that is without end if only we partake.

On being sick

It’s 3am and i’m awake. In fact i havent been to sleep yet. All i’ve done is cough and cough and cough 😦

Being sick is the pits. I have been sick with a chest infection for 16 days. The doc’s thought a year and a half ago that i had asthma, but now they think maybe not but they dont know what else it might be.

Also i’m beginning to think i dont have any friends. There are those that say they are but i havent seen any of them recently. I know i’ve not been a pretty sight and for some of the time talking as just been too much hard work but a few minutes of companionship would of been nice.

I did have a message from one friend who said ‘let me know if there is anything you need’. So i did. I think their reply was ‘i cant do that’. I’ve had another friend who has promised me a visit with chocolate but that hasnt happened either. I think it’s something to do with Christmas and the spirit of GOOD WILL.

On monday at my weekly visits to my docs i was told that i was getting better – honest – but it was just taking time, more time then i have to spare. I always know when i’m better i want to be out and about but up to now all i wanted to do is crawl into bed and stay there. I can breath now providing i dont want to walk too far and i can talk as long as i dont talk too much and i can sleep providing i can do so through all the coughing.

I have promised my daughter a Macdonald’s when im better. Dont normally eat them but i figure if my system can put up with a macdonald’s then i’m better 🙂

New Year Resolutions

Yes i know its not the New Year – yet! But how many New Year Resolutions are actually kept? Most are a distant memory by the end on January, so i’m not waiting till January i thought i would start now.

So, my first resolution is http://www.bemorewithless.com/2010/minimalist-fashion-project-333-begins/

which basically is this – have only 33 items in your wardrobe and use only them for 3 months.

I’ve already blogged about this and i said i didnt think i had 33 items in my wardrobe, so i went and checked and this is my list;

green/blue skirt

green sweater

white vest top

long grey skirt

red patterned blouse

grey swing jacket

grey marl skirt

lilac stripped shirt

purple swing cardiagan/jacket

blue jeans

blue trousers

brown cord trousers

purple top

purple tunic

white long sleeve top

white short sleeved t-shirt

blue jumper

white vest top

purple winter coat

purple tights

black shoes with heels



lilac shawl

stripped scarf

hat and gloves

So thats 26 and thats all i have.

I’ve taken out the following brown sweater (too big), blue sweater (too big) cream sweater (has holes), light green swing coat (doesnt fit, been waiting 3 yrs), grey t-shirt (gone baggy)

Need to add

grey/black dress pants

white shirt

jean/cord skirt

flat shoes

red sweater

brown sweater – replacement

cream sweater – replacement

that would bring it to 33

Things not included



sports wear

workwear – uniform

jewellery – i have 4 pairs of earrings and 2 necklaces

I use to wear a size 24/26 in clothes and now i wear a 16/18 and heading downwards. How am i doing it? Do more and eat better. But I think that’s another blog altogether.

Now let me tell you about my daughters –

There is a Grace a university graduate who learnt to live on student money and what she could earn over the last three years. She learnt about a ‘working wardrobe’, meaning that everything she owned had to worn with several other things. She learnt to charity shop buy and sale buy and use until worn out. By the time she finished university everything went with everything else (ok, maybe not quite) but she is a little bit of an impulse buyer, she sees it, likes it, buys it, brings it home and then thinks what am i going to wear it with.

Secondly there is Emily. My student and my Primark specialist. She just has hoardes of cheap, tatty clothes and she has learnt to her distressed that cheap-cheap is not always the best way. I keep telling her to buy better quality clothes second-hand or in the sale and she listens occasionally.

Last but not least is Bethany. She has a walk-on wardrobe where most of her clothes are part of her floor covering. She also has an array of black bags which contain the rest of her things. Does she have a wardrobe i hear you cry! Yes of cause she does a very good one. She has some very nice things and is good a spotting a bargain but i really wish she would pick things up and put them away. She always seems to wear the same small selection of clothes and looks very pretty but how she actually finds anything in that room of hers ive no idea.

So girls this blog is for you. Its also for all those others just like you. So sort it out girls and take up the challenge – 333 🙂

ps I shall start in January

There are times when i just sit and stare at this page with a million thoughts all racing through my head, not knowing where to start and wondering whether what i say will be of any use to anyone.

Its December! The one month we have been dreading in this family. A year ago yesterday my beautiful niece Danielle Leah Heggarty died in a car accident. There doesnt seem to be any reason for the accident. Unlike this year where we have ice and snow last year on the 8th December it was cold, and sunny and dry. If we knew the reasons why she died it would not bring her back, it would not change the fact that she will be forever 21. Yesterday family and friends went to her garden. We went in ones and twos and small groups to stand in complete shock and awe at the unbelieveabilty and unacceptablity of it all but yet it all felt final. All year we have waited for someone to tell us that it was lie, that the accident didnt happen and that you are still alive.

Her mum, my sister hugged me like she didnt want to  let me go and i didnt want to let her go either. I am her big sister, I am supposed to make everything better but i cannot even though i would if i could. We talked about each having their own grief but that grief being part of the whole but the whole cannot come together for the grief of the individual is too great for the whole.

Each day we miss you Danielle. I look at your photos and i have recently come to realise that you will always look the same. I know that one day, one by one we will come to join you. But for now we live in a make-believe world. People say it will get better, it will get easier but ‘no’ i do not think so, we will just learn to lie better.

This post goes on facebook but thats ok. Your death has been a public one. You are loved by many and missed with every beat of our hearts. We do not say died, we say you are living somewhere else.

If you love someone tell them. If there is a wrong to be put right – DO IT! Do it today..

333 project

I found the 333 project by accident. The lastest challenge started back in october but i’m sure you could start anytime. The idea is that you have only 33 items in your wardrobe including accessories and use only those things for 3 months. Have a look and see what you think.


Original rules

  • When: October 1 – December 31 (It’s never too late to start so join in anytime!)
  • What: 33 items including clothing, accessories, jewelry, outerwear and shoes.
  • What not: these items are not counted as part of the 33 items – wedding ring, underwear, sleep, in-home lounge wear,  and workout clothing (you can only wear your workout clothing to workout)
  • How: over the next two months, outline your 33 items, by the 1st of October, box up the remainder of your fashion statement, seal it with tape and put it out of site.
  • What else: consider that you are creating a wardrobe that you can live, work and play in for three months. If you purchase items for project 333, stick with the one in, two out approach. Consider the essentials and stick to 33.

I’m not a person that needs lots of clothes and im not sure if i have 33 items in my wardrobe but i will have a sortie and let you all know.

Maybe you could start it in the New Year????


Its snowing lots and its very pretty and its very cold and i really could do with hibernating till June but i dont think thats going to happen. Yesterday i was on the bus with my daughter Grace, I was going to the doctors and she was coming with me. Its not that far but seeing as i dont yet have enough breath to walk up a flight of stairs i figured walking out in the snow wasnt a good idea. However as the bus went past the park and the old Bowling museum the sun was shining and glittering off the snow and i wish i had a camera it was all very beautiful. Just the place to sing Christmas carols and roast chestnuts.

The doctor said my chest is better but not my asthma and i continue to cough alarmingly and spend half the night awake. It will take time she said, the doctor, who was very nice. This is all very new to me. I had my first asthma attack last summer when i picked up a cold and then woke up one morning unable to breath. Its not good and if your friend tells you they cant breath then you can bet that they are not joking so try not to ignore them.

They tell me christmas is coming. The weather would indicate that santa might be coming, i suppose he could get his sleigh out in this amount of snow. I have read several blogs this year from people who have stepped out of the rat-race and found life. This year for Christmas what will you give? Money? Expensive gift? Your time? Your talents? Your love?

This coming year is my year to drop out of the rat-race and spending money on things that are of no worth and of little value. So if you ask me what i want for mother’s day, my birthday or christmas and i say ‘hemp hand cream’ or ‘thick socks’ or ‘chocolate’ and after you have got over looking at me strangely then i hope you will buy me what i have asked for – thanks. There i’ve said it. At last.

So take up the challenge to spend nothing this next year.

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